tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post7418006408766043042..comments2024-03-12T04:14:16.271-05:00Comments on The Rad Trad: Marital RegretThe Rad Tradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00899289024837953345noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post-2573869233716007132019-12-15T16:36:35.066-06:002019-12-15T16:36:35.066-06:00Why do you ask?Why do you ask?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post-26582144712080732902019-12-11T14:17:46.042-06:002019-12-11T14:17:46.042-06:00Louisville Archdiocese?Louisville Archdiocese?buckyinkynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post-75737140895611379982019-12-02T01:24:22.769-06:002019-12-02T01:24:22.769-06:00Marriage rule #1: first of all - don't, then m...Marriage rule #1: first of all - don't, then maybe.<br /><br />Marriage is primordial, biological, strategic, social, the merger of peer clan structures to further their survival. If marriage does not come via Providence, drop the idea. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post-66078486368773378962019-12-01T12:24:53.701-06:002019-12-01T12:24:53.701-06:00What helped me understand an extremely unpopular o...What helped me understand an extremely unpopular opinion amongst trad-Catholics was,<br />the Novus Ordo <br />"pre-marriage<br />counseling and preparation."<br />This consisted of,<br />20 Y/N questions day before wedding with a presbyter we didn't know,<br />2 hour bizarre group meet-up of engaged couples at local church gymnasium.(me and her ALREADY arguing/hating/sitting away from each other at table with 3 other couples)<br />Said meet-up had us watching clips of Bruce Willis movie about marriage which used the Lord's Holy name in vain,<br />and finally paying church rental to aforementioned presbyter.<br />Other than this,absolutely nothing else took place.<br />We lived together for 2 years before getting "married" and she was married before in a civil <br />ceremony.<br />Me & her had no business being together let alone being married to each other for Life.<br />We were young & living in <br />unspeakably bad personal situations.<br />Due to many factors we were clueless lost blind and<br />needed guidance which neither of us never received.<br />This was 15 years ago and it's been a slow boil nightmare living Hell ever since.<br />Ok,you tell me we should<br />"value this suffering,love this never ending living Hell,<br />your suffering will bring you joy."<br />I'm on the fast track to Hell due to being in a relationship that is a dead cold ugly lie full of despair longing regret and misery.<br />The Catholic church with a holy mandate from Heaven would<br />NEVER even have allowed such <br />a catastrophe to occur.<br />We were living in Sin and the NOVUS ORDO presbyter was fine with the arrangement.<br />It's so far gone now the best years of our lives are over yet we have 7 or 8 decent years left.<br />Situations like ours is one example among many why young people have no interest in marriage.<br />Please pray for the 2 of us.<br />God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348523519788188753.post-29507023739095048382019-11-27T11:04:47.128-06:002019-11-27T11:04:47.128-06:00To one on the inside of any Tradistani community, ...To one on the inside of any Tradistani community, marriage is seen as disparaged by the secular world and then hyper-glorified for "us elect" who aren't worthy candidates for priestly or religious life. It is an institution and a sacrament which is simultaneously undervalued and overvalued in the aftermath of the sexual revolution and the more recent iterations of the same. Tradistani culture is hell bent on being the agents of the "biological solution" and pushes marriage and fecundity accordingly, yet many a young person, especially nowadays and in those enclaves, are not emotionally mature to contract marriage these days. <br /><br /><br />I have pondered many a day that part about whether an idealist is suitable for marriage at all, and hence do belong as celibate academics or clergy. I recall a quote from Dr. Zhivago in which Kamarovsky talks to Lara of two kinds of men; the first is the "high-minded type who are idealists and will make women miserable. Joanneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00496552906164909711noreply@blogger.com